Signs

As I stood by the stop sign and witnessed a car just keep driving by without even stopping at the stop sign, the son Signs by Five Man Electrical Band popped in my head. How that song was about a frustrated individual who believed that too many signs was getting in the way of living.

Sign Sign everywhere a sign
Blocking out the scenery breaking my mind
Do this, don't do that, can't you read the sign

You have to realize that signs are a necessity, especially when humankind isn't as forgiving, understanding and helpful as you have come to believe when you're a child.

And the sign said anybody caught trespassing would be shot on sight
So I jumped on the fence and yelled at the house, Hey! what gives you the right
To put up a fence to keep me out or to keep mother nature in
If God was here, he'd tell you to your face, man you're some kinda sinner

Signs are very important. For that car and many more that I see where the driver ignores the signs, someone can get hurt if the signs are not obeyed. There can't be a police officer at every junction making sure the traffic signs are upheld or the traffic laws are being followed.

Now, hey you Mister! can't you read, you got to have a shirt and tie to get a seat
You can't even watch, no you can't eat, you ain't suppose to be here
Sign said you got to have a membership card to get inside Uh!

When I'm in the passenger's seat of my friend's car, drivers don't indicate to make left or right turns, they don't follow the pedestrian signs and people crossing the streets are cut off from walking to the other side of the road. There doesn't appear to be any respect or consideration for anyone else on the road anymore.

My mother was in a bad accident when I was a child and she's okay, but that propelled her to never drive again. While growing up and witnessing these bad drivers on the road, I am also hesitant to complete my drivers training. It seems as if no one cares about their fellow driver when he or she sits behind the steering wheel. It's all for yourself and what time you're going to get to your destination.

And the sign said everybody welcome, come in, kneel down and pray
But when they passed around the plate at the end of it all, I didn't have a penny to pay,
so I got me a pen and a paper and I made up my own little sign
I said thank you Lord for thinking about me, I'm alive and doing fine

Do I want to be among the inconsiderate drivers that could send me to my doom on a dark highway? It's disconcerting, not exciting to be a new driver. Sometimes, it's down right scary.

Signs is an entertaining song and it was written in 1970. I don't think the character in the song realized that no one seems to actually care about signs in this day and age.
(song from www.signslyrics.com)

Should You Spill Your Emotions?

It’s funny when it comes to matters of the heart. What “they” didn’t tell you is that when you’re in a relationship, you can’t spill your guts out in the open until the person you are dating is on the same page.

When you hold in your emotions, when you two are together, that is the only thing on your mind when you’re together. When he asks you, “What are you thinking?”, you dare not tell when you know he doesn’t feel the same way as you.

It’s aggravating when you wait until you get to the same point in your emotions, hoping that he will eventually get there. It’s painful when you fear that he may not arrive at the same emotional destination.

So what do you do? How long do you wait? When everything else is going so well, how much time do you set aside before the uncomfortable confrontation takes place?

You don’t want to badger and sound like “other women” because you don’t feel like other women. You think one of the reasons why he likes you so much is that you’re “different”. How much different can you be, though, when you are pining over not know how he truly feels about you and you being too afraid to bring up the subject?

I say to wait until you can feel it in your gut that it is a good time to discuss the matter. When you are at a turning point where you need to know in order for you to move on in the relationship, you will be brave, eloquent and mature when you approach the subject.

The Ugly Truth

I was watching The Ugly Truth with Gerard Butler and there was a scene in the movie, near the end in fact, where the two main characters are standing in the hot air balloon and they strike up a conversation about women creating checklists while dating.

I had to laugh because I use a checklist myself but who doesn’t? It’s not really a list with attributes you check off when you find a guy but it’s more like a guideline so you don’t go astray. You don’t think guys have some kind of mental checklist when they are looking for the right woman for them?

The main items on my checklist is at least three main important ones – employment, own residence and a means of transportation. The other points are flexible but the deal breaker is smoking. My ex-husband was a smoker and it was so difficult to live with the smell and the stains.

Besides the worst part is that although you have a checklist, what you didn’t know, is that you fall prey to that attractive, nice guy that bought you dinner, is nice to your friends and family and calls you all the time to see how you are feeling. He doesn’t meet your expectations and you bend a little to accommodate him.

Watch out and justify all his good points and his faults because you don’t want to be stuck. Pull out that dusty checklist and make sure he at least meets your first three important qualities at the top of the list – then go for it.

The ugly truth or not – we all have some idea of who we want to spend the rest of our lives with.

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